The One

Everyone is always asking how they will know when they've found the "right" person. Generally, the answer has to do with a vague, "You'll just know!," but what if there is a certain pattern underlying this attachment? I've heard all sorts of biological and sociological theories that sound quite convincing and logical, and I do believe a lot of them. But that's still not necessarily my style, I like dreaming in whimsical hypotheses. :)

Last night Jordan and I were standing out on the porch discussing my upcoming painting projects. I suddenly realized the key to "knowing."

I was bouncing my favorite ideas (the one I'm definitely going to pursue this time around) off of him, and while he liked it, he also gave me the most amazing concept to try after this next study. I don't know if I can convey what this suggestion could do for me if executed correctly. It was such a beautiful visualization and air of understanding that I felt like crying a little, haha.

I finally appreciated that the reason I got onto this theme at all is due to Jordan. His independent interests piqued my own, and helped to bring out what was aching to be expressed right beneath the surface. If it were not for him, chances are that I would be trying to paint something incredibly cheesy. Not that I am totally reliant on him (or vice versa), but he has helped me to grow into the person I've always wanted to be, and I have done the same for him.

I'm not quite sure how to sum it up tightly. Insightful mutual guidance? Imagine the plots played out on film where there is a path or labyrinth meant for two people, and these two have something the other needs to complete the journey otherwise it's far more difficult and less fulfilling (possibly even disastrous). The essential essence the other brings to the situation doesn't even have to be something spoken or tangible, but it's still necessary to those circumstances. Yin and yang, working parts of the same whole.

I know that I am at least not alone in this vein. I have heard painters say that they have never created a painting without help and advice from their partner. I have heard folkloric tales about a great answer coming after getting simple counsel from a spouse. Big decisions in careers are talked over with significant others.

To put it even more simply, the one you are with should make you a better person just by being around.